One day I was walking past a funeral parlour and I suddenly thought, wouldn't it be wierd if I started wailing? Yes, the African way of mourning traditionally is wailing, weeping or mourning whatever way you feel best describes the way you feel at that particular moment. However, this is the thing, my passing through a funeral parlour doesn't make me a corpse. It doesn't speak anything to the person that I am, it doesn't diminish my being alive or the person that I am. Psalms 23:4 says "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." So, what situation are you passing through? It does not define you. Keep walking and sooner rather than later you will have walked through its length and it will soon be a distant memory. Stay blessed and keep Jesus as the focal point of your life.